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Our twenty years in the beauty and spa industries is plenty of reason to let us help you become a better woman and meet a better man. The following advice and tips come from those twenty years. They are to be used at your own risk. We hope you find them helpful. — Patti & Lori
The World We Live In
The Power of Successful Dressing
Self Esteem, Self Confidence and Self Hypnosis
The World We Live In
Beauty Tips
Manicures and pedicures: a must for any hot date or prowling session. Leave no detail unattended. French manicures or a subtle nail color is a classy look. Stay away from the blue! Very trailer parkish even if it was the hot trend for a very short time. Hmmm, I wonder why?
Hair: Let your stylist blow out your locks for you. Get that Vidal Sassoon look. That way all you have to do before you go out is slip into something sexy, apply make-up and go. Hair color out of a box looks like hair color that came from a box. Leave the chemicals to the professionals.
Body: A tip to looking hot without much effort is body glitter! Everyone looks better with a little glitter on them. Gold, silver, and bronze dusted is a must have in every beauty bag. Add glitter to your cleavage, bare arms, legs, and maybe a little on your cheekbones.
Men who are financially successful do not hang out at the local bowling alley for dollar draft night. I cannot remember ever seeing a man of means with his underwear hanging out of his jeans.
If you are serious about life and want to meet a man with money there is a protocol to follow. Looks are everything. Style is a must. The way you talk, the way you act will make or break your chances to land the man of your dreams.
Let’s start with looks. To men they are everything. And let’s face it, to us they are as well. You need to be first physically attracted to someone before you will let them in the gate. Being a Trophy Wife In Training is hard work. You have to work out for that gorgeous figure, you have to shut your mouth and not shove every cookie you pass into it. Just a healthy, low calorie meal is an easy way to get the weight loss ball rolling as well as a 60 minute power walk around the block or treadmill.
In short, how you maintain your body tells men a lot about what kind of person you are. How are you going to be able to maintain his mansion if you can’t even maintain your body? Come on girls, are you getting the picture?
Now if you’re not the type of girl who does not want to date a man just because he is rich that’s fine. Just remember, a millionaire is dating a beautiful woman because she is a beautiful woman! Sure, she probably has a great personality, but her looks is the one trait that is non-negotiable. If she were ugly he would never know what her personality was like. She wouldn’t get through the gate!
That's the world we live in, period. The faster you figure that out the better off you’ll be.
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The Power of Successful Dressing
By Natasha Leratti
Fashion is an illusion.
It is surreal and enigmatic. Your look is an illusion. Such illusion has the power to make people marvel and want you. It is an illusion that carries an enormously magnetic power. However, unless you know how to use this unique weapon called FASHION, you will find a great deal of difficulty to succeed in today's so modern, demanding and fast changing world.
In these days, your look is your winning trophy. It is the most powerful marketing tool, which can open doors for you in the business world, as well as in your personal life. All you need is to understand a psychology of successful dressing, its ingredients. Once you have grasped the full meaning of a saying as famous as 'clothes are never a frivolity, but always mean something', you will be able to dress accordingly and, at the same time, express your fundamental nature in an elegant and agreeable manner, which is always the way to winning others admiration.
Keep the Keepers.
You do not need to spend an obscene amount of money each season and year to renew you wardrobe and look your most fashionably fabulous. Yes, there are always new trends coming in style, but there are always 'the keepers' of your wardrobe, essential staples that go with almost anything and never go out of style.
All that you need to know is how to add layers and accessories to it. I guarantee that after you master the technique, you would easily take your 'keepers' from day to night, from season to season, and enjoy wearing and looking your greatest years from now.
So, how is it possible to know which are the pieces that form 'the essentials' of each woman or man's wardrobe? Let us take the so popular and favorite 'black dress'. It is a simple classic piece that, on its own, carries power, confidence, and makes the statement. It is mysterious, and chic, discreet and provocative, yet simple and elegant. It hides any imperfections of one's body and attracts the attention of others. Concisely, it is a winner's piece and a must have garment for any woman's wardrobe. I remember that Francoise Sagan, representative of the Nouvelle Vague, once said that 'a dress makes no sense unless it inspires men to want to take it off you'. A simple, black dress offers the guarantee of accomplishing precisely this. The straightforward reality is that nothing could cleave better to one's mind as a beautiful woman in a simple dress can. Keep in mind the incredibly stunning 'axiom', articulated by Coco Chanel herself, namely that 'adorment is never anything except a reflection of the heart'.
Clothes Make the Woman AND the Man.
It would be rather difficult to find a man of any age who does not have a few white shirts and a pair of black trousers in his closet. They make the basic 'apparel' of men's style. Undoubtedly, they will not award the same enigmatic feeling that a black dress can offer, but the reason is obvious: men's clothes will not put forward the same multitude of meanings and suggestions that women's clothes can present. This happens because men are more straightforward than women are, when it comes to dressing. However, they still have their style essentially defined by the indispensible assortment of white shirt - black trousers, fitting almost any occasion.
The point is that we all want to adapt fashionable outfits in such a manner that they do not overwhelm our individual style. On the contrary, they should assist us in building our personality. Irrespective of you being a man or a woman, the way you dress can speak a lot about who you are.
Subconsciously we devote ourselves to attracting people's attention. We, as men and women, work so hard these days on our appearance: we exhaust ourselves in health clubs; we watch our diets, we go through cosmetic surgeries and body makeovers. We do not forget about constant changes in hairstyle and hair color,and so on.
Finally, we cover our body with clothes. Here is the point where the majority of us are failing after all this hard work and tons of money and time that we invested to our bodies. If you are interested in understanding the psychology of successful dressing, all its ingredients and style secrets of how to become a successful and confident professional, then you need the help of a designer.
But remember, you can change and improve your look without changing your wardrobe and breaking life savings accounts.
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Self Esteem, Self Confidence and Self Hypnosis
Learn how easy it is to increase your self-esteem and your self confidence to achieve the things in life that you desire
By Michael McGrath
Every one of us knows the important role that self confidence plays in our lives. Without a good measure of confidence in ourselves we would find it difficult to interact in social, business or even personal situations. Every one of us has some degree of confidence in ourselves whether we realize it or not. Without confidence you would not survive in the world! For example you must have enough faith that you can clothe, feed and shelter yourself. However how many of us take a good look at the state of our self esteem? If you take the time to increase your self esteem, you will find that your self confidence increases naturally. Build a solid strong self-image, with high self-esteem and you will feel invincible!
Having a positive self-image that is built on a foundation of high self-esteem is a pre-requisite to happiness, any type of success and life fulfilment in general. So what is self-esteem and how can you develop your own?
Well, self-esteem is simply a word that is used to describe how you feel about yourself. It represents your own self worth and reflects your internal beliefs about yourself and your place in the world.
Your self-esteem is the bedrock of your self-image and it is your self-image that you use, unconsciously, as a guide to your own abilities - what you think you can and cannot achieve. Your self-image is also the blue-print from which you build your life. If you have a negative or unrealistically negative image of yourself and your abilities then your life will never work the way you wish it to regardless of how hard you try to change it!
As your self image is how you see yourself then this determines how you think, act and react to the world around you. It influences your behaviour and thus it is directly responsible for the results you get in life. Having low self-esteem usually leads to a victim type self-image where you feel like it is impossible for you to succeed.
If you have high self-esteem your self-image will be very positive and you will feel like you can handle any problem and overcome any obstacle. You feel like you will succeed no matter what life throws at you. You will be naturally optimistic.
When you have a strong sense of self worth and high self-esteem you tend to know where you are going in life. It is a fact that men and women who have high self-esteem know what they want from life. They are generally much more goal-orientated than others. These people exude confidence and optimism because they believe that no matter what obstacles they encounter they will reach their goal if they keep going and don’t give-up!
Having high self-esteem allows you to think clearly and avoid emotional thinking and this leads to the gaining the skill of persistence. It allows you to act in circumstances from a clear mental view point instead of reacting. You can thus stay more focused on any given situation because your thought processes are not bogged down in unnecessary worry. You can think more clearly and therefore make decidions based on evidence and not imaginary scenarios driven by fear. People with low self-esteem usually just give-up when faced with challenges because they believe they cannot meet them.
People with high self-esteem are more centered in the moment. Their thoughts are not in the past or focused on the distant future. By feeling secure, safe and loving they keep their focus in the present and thus enjoy their experiences much more. Those with low-self-esteem find it hard to enjoy what they are doing because their thoughts dwell on the past, future potential failures and the worry of how other people perceive them. Having a solid belief in yourself and your abilities also gives you the opportunity to look at your weaknesses and improve yourself because you are able to see these as challenges to overcome rather than as a criticisms or affirmations of your faults.
In order to achieve high self-esteem you must first be willing to accept yourself as you are. Stop judging yourself and especially stop judging the past. The key is to live in the moment.
Take inventory of your strengths. Congratulate yourself on your abilities and the skills you have developed on your journey through life. Accept that you have made mistakes, everyone makes them. Accept that you have learned valuable lessons from things that you believe you have done wrong. Every action you have ever taken has helped to develop the person you are today and the knowledge you gained from each experience will help to create the person you intend to be tomorrow. Every experience you have is moving you towards your desires!
Recall your success and dwell on them for a moment internally. There is no need to be egotistical about this. Just congratulate yourself on a job well done and know that you can replicate these successes again and again! Also think about what you want to gain in life. Set yourself some goals. If it seems like they are too far out of reach then set smaller goals first that will lead you closer to your ultimate desires.
Having doubts about your ability to achieve your goals can be used to your advantage. Write down, in a point by point list, all the reason you believe you cannot achieve your goals. Then take each one and develop a plan to overcome each obstacle. Lets take the example of wanting to increase your finances. You may decide to change to a better paying job and thus form the conclusion that you need to change career. However, you feel that you do not have the ncessary qualifications to seek employment that would pay better and give you a sense of fulfillment. All that is needed to overcome these limiting beliefs, in such a case, is to set a goal to attain the qualifications you need. You would then create a plan for achieving this and follow it through. In order to overcome these negative beliefs you must create a plan to gain the experience and/or qualifications you feel you need. Perhaps setting a goal to return to night school or volunteer to gain more experience would address these issues. In such a case you would take inventory of your current circumstances and determine how best you could gain what you needed.
Another essential skill you need to develop is the use of positive self-talk. Watch how you speak to yourself internally and how you speak about yourself to others. Both are forms of affirmations which are really commands you are giving to your subconscious mind. You must reprogram your mind for success. Write your goal down, in the present tense, as though you were telling someone else exactly how your life is now. Read the statement every morning and every night. Try self-hypnosis as a form of positive mental brain-washing. Use it to program your subconscious mind for success.
In this way you will increase your belief in yourself, your abilities and your future and your self-esteem will skyrocket!